{life and lauren mckinsey} happy father’s day jim

april 15, 2007. the day i married a man who not only loved me – but my two boys. during those early years, we were a “typical divorced” family. my boy’s time was split between two households. i will always be grateful for those early years when jim and i had those monday and tuesdays nights just for us. jim had married into an “instant” family so those few days for just us each week were precious and much needed. in october of 2008, my boy’s father was killed in an auto accident. i will never forget a conversation jim and i had would have later in reference to the morning we learned of ross’ death. my reaction was one that you would see in a movie. the disbelief. the sobbing. the heartbreak. the questions. jim would tell me later that as he stood there listening to the news he knew that ross had given him the greatest gift. the gift of being a full time dad to the boys. jim was our rock. he stood by our side. he never judged how i grieved. he continues to listen and understand no matter how much time passes. he isn’t perfect, but he’s my best friend. the man who supports my dreams. the man who spends hours a week training with our youngest so that he can pursue his basketball dreams. the man who works with our oldest so that he excels in school and is able to pursue his dreams. we have experienced some major life changes over the past five years. we have walked through hard things. we have failed many times. we have been in our share of counseling sessions. we have cried and fought for survival. we have worked through regrets. but we have held on tight and moved forward. father’s day isn’t the easiest holiday for me. i am filled with mixed emotions. i am so grateful for my husband who is the dad where ross left off. but, i am heartbroken too that my boys have experienced such tremendous loss. this year to celebrate jim and who he is to us, i had some fun with food! i thought it would be fitting and clever for the man who works alongside me everyday in the business. he would most certainly appreciate the design elements!

sometimes it is a bit like a zoo around here….

but we sure scored big when we found you…

because our lives would be missing a special piece without you! i love you honey! thank you for being the man that you are and the father that you are to the boys.

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0 Responses to {life and lauren mckinsey} happy father’s day jim

  1. Heather June 30, 2012 at 5:40 pm #

    Lauren,
    Thank you so much for sharing your story. My boy’s father and I divorced while I was pregnant with our second and he is rarely around. As difficult it was at first to realize my situation, I saw that God had worked in mysterious ways. He led me to a man that I have known for 13 years, whom I have fallen in love with, and who has stepped into the father role without missing a beat. I am so thankful for my children and for this new love, my best friend. I would like to show him my appreciation for his tenderness and amazingness and your tags are just the thing. I looked for them in your shop but couldn’t find them. Is it possible to get a copy of the tags you made?
    Thanks again for sharing your story,
    Heather

    • Lauren McKinsey July 2, 2012 at 11:04 pm #

      heather,

      thanks for sharing with me YOUR story. i am not sure why, but i can’t find the tags i made for jim, but i am working on a second set. i will send them to you this week!!!!!

  2. Cheryl June 24, 2012 at 6:45 pm #

    One of my friends calls her stepfather her “bonus dad”. I so love that and truly try to look for a guy that will fill that calling in my own family. Your words were so sweet and leave me with the hope that there are more great guys out there willing to take over where someone has left off. Thanks for sharing your beautiful story and sentiment.

  3. Amanda Trotter June 22, 2012 at 10:29 pm #

    LM… this blog put me to tears.. your words are perfect and that is the sweetest gesture. My stepfather came into my life after my father died and I thank GOD for him that he was able to pick up where my dad left off. You said it perfectly in your blog and that fathers day gift is adorable!

  4. Mandy |Small Fine Print| June 21, 2012 at 12:29 pm #

    What a wonderful blog post. Thank you for sharing that with your readers 🙂

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